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Do you ever feel stuck, emotionally drained, or like you’re constantly striving but never “enough”? You’re in the right place! Welcome to A HOLY MESS Podcast (ranked in the top 1% globally🎉), a podcast designed for you if you’re ready to break free and heal from self-doubt, burnout, and overgiving—so you can step into confidence, peace, God’s grace and purpose with clarity. Each week, I share biblical wisdom, mindset shifts, and real conversations to help you: ✨ Overcome self-doubt and fear with faith-based confidence. ✨ Let go of striving and perfectionism and embrace God’s grace. ✨ Set healthy boundaries and stop people-pleasing without guilt. ✨ Heal from burnout, shame, regret, and emotional exhaustion. ✨ Renew your mind with God’s truth and step into your purpose. There’s no magic wand to find more freedom, but there are practical tools that can help. Even as Christians who sometimes feel unworthy and shame about our past, anxious about our future, or feel like we are not enough. There is so much more for us! There’s hope, joy, peace, fun, purpose, and a reason that YOU are on this planet. If you’re ready to rediscover your worth, reconnect with God, and finally feel at peace, you’re in the right place. We can have fun and laugh while trudging through our messes; this stuff doesn’t need to be dry and boring. I can’t wait to journey with you. Your new friend, Dani Learn -＞ www.danisumner.com Connect -＞ hello@danisumner.com Facebook -＞ https://www.facebook.com/DaniSumnerCoaching Instagram -＞ https://www.instagram.com/danisumner/
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3 hours ago
3 hours ago
Ever feel the stress in your body? Welcome to the club! ;) A club I’d rather not be in, but I am here, so here we are. ;)
This by no means is an exhaustive list of ways to help, but I thought I would bring this subject around again on the show because so many of us are feeling the stress of life in our bodies. And I don't want to be a ‘victim’ of that stress and have been on a journey to really learn how to care for myself in this. It’s been quite the process, but soo worth it!
I mention "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, a phenomenal book that triggered me the whole way through. But it taught me so much about why my body was feeling it and “keeping score.”
I hope this episode blesses you.
Key Topics Covered:
Understanding Body-Stress Connection
- How stress manifests physically in the body
- Personal examples of stress patterns (shoulder tension, hip pain)
- The importance of acknowledging rather than shaming physical stress responses
What Doesn't Work
- Self-shaming and harsh self-talk
- "Suck it up buttercup" mentality
- Ignoring your body's signals
Personal Evolution in Self-Care
- How body needs change over time
- Transitioning from ice baths to heat therapy
- Listening to your body's changing needs
- Honoring hormonal changes with age
Key Takeaways:
- Your body keeps score - Physical symptoms often reflect emotional and mental stress
- Permission to prioritize - Self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary
- Adaptation is normal - What worked before may not work now, and that's okay
- Gentle approach - Choose loving, nurturing ways to care for your body
- Individual needs - We're not one-size-fits-all; honor your unique body
Feeling a tug towards finding your purpose and learning to how prioritize yourself without the guilt? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani to explore if working together is the right fit for you.
Glad you’re here,
Dani
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6 days ago
6 days ago
Ever walk into a room and instantly feel the weight of someone else's sadness? Me too! Today I’m talking about practical steps to protect your energy and not pick up what others are putting down.
Key topics:
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Galatians 6:2 - "Carry one another's burdens"
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The difference between carrying WITH someone vs. carrying FOR someone
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How to steward your sensitivity as a gift, not a burden
Practical Steps for Energy Protection:
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Recognize - Notice when emotions aren't yours (taking your temperature before/after interactions)
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Pray for them - Use your sensitivity to pray more specifically for others
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Release it - Pray for protection and ask God to remove what isn't yours
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Reset - Take action to recalibrate (walk, water, music, movement)
Action Steps:
- Before your next difficult conversation, take note of how you're feeling
- Practice the pray-release-reset method when you absorb others' energy
- Identify relationships that consistently drain you and prepare accordingly
- Set healthy boundaries around news and social media consumption
Also, feeling a tug towards finding your purpose? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani to explore if working together is the right fit for you.
Enjoy!
Dani
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Monday Jun 30, 2025
Monday Jun 30, 2025
What if I told you that feeling incomplete, anxious, or sad isn't a sign you're broken—but a sign you're beautifully, perfectly human?
Today we're talking about embracing our triggers as teachers instead of enemies. Therapist Jim Beebe is with us and you're going to LOVE his Grace filled honest approach. Enjoy this conversation and our time with Jim.
So grateful you're here.
Much love,
Dani
Ready to dive deeper and find your purpose and with it more joy and peace? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call
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Thursday Jun 26, 2025
Thursday Jun 26, 2025
Come to my FREE Workshop Sunday June 29th--"What Affirmations Aren't Working For You, And What To Do About It"--Sign up here for link.
Hi!
Are you struggling with that negative voice in your head telling you you're not worthy? In this episode, I'm talking about some practical ways to help you with the negative self-talk that's holding you back. Learn why traditional affirmations often fail, how to identify the root of unworthiness beliefs, and practical steps to stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself. If you're dealing with self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or feeling unworthy of God's love and calling--this episode will help!
So glad you're here!
Dani
Ready to dive deeper into your healing journey? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call
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Sunday Jun 22, 2025
Sunday Jun 22, 2025
Hello you beautiful soul!
If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts, stuck in loops of fear and self-doubt, or just plain exhausted, this episode is for YOU.
We're talking about God's incredible power to transform the wilderness places in our lives into streams of living water.
What You'll Discover:
✨ Why you're NOT broken if you struggle with negative thoughts
✨ How to begin the process of rewiring your brain from negative patterns to healthier thinking.
✨ The vision of boats on the lake - letting resentment and anger sail on by
✨ Why healing takes time and that's perfectly okay
✨ The difference between pouring out empty vs. giving from overflow
Key Scripture: Isaiah 35
"The desert and the parched land will be glad. The wilderness will rejoice and blossom... Water will gush forth in the wilderness and streams in the desert."
Real Talk:
- You're not doing anything wrong if transformation feels slow
- Your overactive imagination can be trained for good instead of fear
- God wants to speak to ALL of us - you're not a unicorn!
Ready to Go Deeper? 🚀
Ready to dive deeper into your healing journey? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help.
Glad you’re here,
Dani
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Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
In this episode I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Sandra Richter, author of the Deborah Bible study to discuss finding God's grace in our broken stories and answering His call to reclaim kingdom territory.
She shares part of her story, and you guys, she’s one of us. She’s amazing and God is doing so much good work through her. I hope hearing her story and her heart and passion for her work inspires you on your journey. God’s NOT done with YOU!
About Dr. Sandra Richter:
“Dr. Sandra Richter is the Gundry Chair of Biblical Studies at Westmont College and a graduate of Harvard University, she’s dedicated her career to making Scripture accessible and relevant to contemporary audiences." And she has! :)
You can learn more about her here as well.
Today as we talk you can tell her approach combines brilliant theological insight with authentic vulnerability from her own journey of healing from childhood trauma. Her passion is making Scripture accessible while challenging believers to step into their kingdom purpose.
We’re talking about her bible study, “Deborah Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Unlikely Heroes and the Book of Judges (Epic of Eden)”
Ready to Find Your Kingdom Purpose?
Are you struggling to reconcile your past with God's calling on your life? Do you feel God nudging you toward something but fear or shame’s holding you back? I'd love to help you uncover your kingdom purpose and find healing in your story.
I’m so grateful you’re here and I hope this episode encourages and blesses you.
Much love,
Dani
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Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Hi friend!
Today, I'm covering a few things… We're talking about one-day-at-a-time healing, why forgiveness isn't a "pray once and done" situation, and how to feel your feelings without letting resentment poison your soul.
Also, just a friendly reminder, God hasn't forgotten those dreams He planted in you long ago... I think sometimes we need that loving reminder. ;)
Take care of yourself this week - do something that makes you feel alive. You're worth it.
Life is such a journey! I hope this episode blesses you.
Interested in one of Dani's retreats? Email me at hello@danisumner.com
Glad you're here,
Dani
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Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Hi!
I’ve spoken with a few friends lately who have relapsed with their addiction struggles.
Relapsing can be so difficult and really pile on the shame.
I want you to know—you are not alone, and it’s going to be okay. Please reach out and find a support system to help you get back to your sobriety. You deserve the help you need!
If you’re struggling deeply with a destructive addiction, please reach out to a local recovery group near you. There are amazing resources for every type of addiction. Remember, you are not alone!
👉🏼💛 If you’re looking for more freedom and personal growth in your relationship with God, or if you want to find more peace with yourself, reach out for a discovery call. We can explore together if working together could help.
Love,
Dani
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Friday Apr 25, 2025
Friday Apr 25, 2025
Hey friend! Today's episode is short and sweet - just jumping on to give some short encouragement and prayer over you.
In this episode:
- A reminder that you're stronger than you give yourself credit for
- Finding your true identity beyond what you do—🔥thisssss is a vital step in finding our purpose! ☎️Book a call if you need help here-this is my jam.
- Embracing joy in the journey, even in hard places
- A special prayer to bless your path
Remember: ""While there is breath in your lungs, God is not done with you.""
Much love,
Dani
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Friday Apr 18, 2025
Friday Apr 18, 2025
On this Good Friday, I'm sharing some thoughts about what this weekend means and how to find hope in difficult seasons.
Remember, the Christian faith isn't about white-knuckling through life - it's about surrendering and letting your truest self emerge through pain, and when you do, you will change the world! And I’m here to cheer you on!
In This Episode:
The truth behind "it's Friday, but Sunday's coming!"
🤣 A funny story about "Jesus's phone number" (Jeremiah 33:3)
🔥 Why God allows certain things to die for resurrection to happen
👉🏼 Permission to hope again, even when life has taken its pound of flesh
🗣️ Remember, while you still have breath in your lungs, God is not done with your story!
Share this episode with someone who needs resurrection hope today!
- Dani
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Keywords: Good Friday, Easter hope, resurrection story, Jeremiah 33:3, Christian coaching"