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Do you ever feel stuck, emotionally drained, or like you’re constantly striving but never “enough”? You’re in the right place! Welcome to A HOLY MESS Podcast (ranked in the top 1% globally🎉), a podcast designed for you if you’re ready to break free and heal from self-doubt, burnout, and overgiving—so you can step into confidence, peace, God’s grace and purpose with clarity. Each week, I share biblical wisdom, mindset shifts, and real conversations to help you: ✨ Overcome self-doubt and fear with faith-based confidence. ✨ Let go of striving and perfectionism and embrace God’s grace. ✨ Set healthy boundaries and stop people-pleasing without guilt. ✨ Heal from burnout, shame, regret, and emotional exhaustion. ✨ Renew your mind with God’s truth and step into your purpose. There’s no magic wand to find more freedom, but there are practical tools that can help. Even as Christians who sometimes feel unworthy and shame about our past, anxious about our future, or feel like we are not enough. There is so much more for us! There’s hope, joy, peace, fun, purpose, and a reason that YOU are on this planet. If you’re ready to rediscover your worth, reconnect with God, and finally feel at peace, you’re in the right place. We can have fun and laugh while trudging through our messes; this stuff doesn’t need to be dry and boring. I can’t wait to journey with you. Your new friend, Dani Learn -> www.danisumner.com Connect -> hello@danisumner.com Facebook -> https://www.facebook.com/DaniSumnerCoaching Instagram -> https://www.instagram.com/danisumner/
Episodes

11 hours ago
11 hours ago
Hi friend!
I used to be soo controlled by others opinions of me.
Until I embraced the life-changing truth: “Other people's opinions about me are NONE of my business.”
Episode Highlights:
- Why living under the tyranny of others' opinions keeps you from peace and joy
- The only two relationships that truly matter: your relationship with God and yourself (after that, other relationships fall into place for the most part)
- How healing these foundational relationships changes EVERYTHING else
When you stop trying to control what others think of you and focus on healing your relationship with yourself, life becomes so much more enjoyable!
You stand before an audience of ONE - God Almighty - and yourself.
If you're tired of banging your head against the wall trying to prove yourself worthy to others, I can help!
🔗 BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL
Keep showing up for yourself, friend. Remember, other people's opinions about you are NONE of your business! *yesss, I get how difficult it is to let those opinions go. But the goal is to not be so controlled by those who only know a fraction of your truth and story.
With so much love and gratitude,
Dani
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#selfworth #christianlifecoachingtips #healingjourney #faithbasedcoaching #personalgrowth

5 days ago
5 days ago
I know when we’re struggling in life sometimes the first thing that comes up is doubts about God or our relationship with him. I get it! Today we’re talking to author Niki Hardy–she recently wrote “God Can We Chat” – a conversation about doubts and how that can lead us to grow closer to God.
- 🙏 Niki shares how her faith was challenged by leadership struggles, political division, and difficult Bible passages
- 💬 Discovering we're never alone in our questions
- ✨ Doubt as a faith superpower, not kryptonite
- 🛣️ Finding a third path between blind faith and disbelief
- 🔍 The CHAT guide for honest conversations with God:
- Consider the facts
- Honor your story
- Ask God's perspective
- Team up going forward
- 💙 "Life doesn't have to be pain-free to be full"
If you struggle with doubts, I hope this conversation and her book bless you!
Grateful you’re here.
Much love,
Dani
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✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here.
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Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
179. How Grace Givers Transform Your Entire Story. With Therapist Jim Beebe
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Today, Jim (my therapist) and I are talking about the importance of recognizing those special people who've been "beacons of light" in our lives. The ones who loved us back to life.
I remember when I couldn't see or recognize the people from my past who were looking out for me along the way.
That's why questions like the one Jim asked me in today's episode are so powerful!
Who are your bright lights and beacons?
I'm grateful you're here.
May this Podcast be a bright light and beacon on your journey.
God bless and much love,
Dani
🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/
✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here.
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Friday Mar 21, 2025
Friday Mar 21, 2025
You are NOT alone in your struggles!
Hi friend,
Today, we're hearing from my friend and Pastor, David Hutsko.
David is the real deal, and I hope his transparency blesses you!
I know sometimes we think Pastors "have it all together,"--and I hope you're encouraged as you listen to David share his story and what he's currently walking through as he continues to heal and become who God has created him to be.
We're talking about self-forgiveness, finding authentic belonging, church hurt, and so much more.
Also, if you don't currently have a Church home (or even if you do but want to be encouraged)--check out his sermons here: https://www.newlifepismo.com/sermons/sermon-series/
I'm so grateful you're here!
Much love,
Dani
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✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here.
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Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
177. 👉🏻Unlocking Strength: Boost Your Resilience, Courage and Clarity
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
When we're going through hard times, it's nearly impossible to see the forest through the trees sometimes.
We forget God's faithfulness to us in the past. And sometimes, we just need to anchor and remember how we've gotten through things before.
Today, I'm sharing a short story that I hope encourages you.
Verse:
Psalm 77:11 reminds us to "remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago."
Song:
"Count Your Blessings"
No matter what you're facing, you're not alone. Your story isn't over. As long as you have breath, there's time for more healing.
Don't give up on yourself or the healing process.
Much love,
Dani
Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.
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Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you.
Keywords: Christian purpose finding, Faith during difficult seasons, Remembrance stones Christian meaning, Finding meaning in suffering Christian, God's faithfulness in hardship, Christian spiritual growth through trials, Biblical remembrance practices, High-achiever Christian struggles, Christian executive spiritual journey, Faith for professionals in crisis

Friday Mar 14, 2025
176. Healthy Boundaries in Faith: Protecting Your Peace. Hebrews 12.
Friday Mar 14, 2025
Friday Mar 14, 2025
In today's episode, I'm talking all about BOUNDARIES - something that can feel super uncomfortable for those of us who are helpers, servers, and especially for us Jesus-loving folks who think we need to sacrifice to the emotional/mental/physical death!
What You'll Learn:
- Why boundaries are actually HEALTHY and HOLY (not selfish!)
- How I'm implementing boundaries in my own life (especially with family)
- My hilarious new favorite quote: ""I'm not tall enough to ride on your emotional rollercoaster""
- Why guarding your time and emotional capacity is crucial for the people you're ACTUALLY called to steward
- How to stop feeling guilty when you set healthy boundaries
Scripture mentioned:
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us... so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."- Hebrews 12:1-3
We're not spiritual robots! God created us with limitations and limited capacity. The sooner we honor that, the sooner we can find more joy, peace, and purpose.
Boundaries aren't about keeping people out - they're about protecting you and the people you're called to steward. You can't give from an empty well, friends! ❤️
Much love,
Dani
Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.
🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/
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Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you.
Keywords: Christian Boundaries, Holy Boundaries, Faith And Boundaries, Christian Wellness, Boundaries Without Guilt, Christian Self Care, Faith Journey, Biblical Self Care, Mind Body Spirit, Christian Women Podcast, Emotional Health, Spiritual Growth, Faith Over Fear, Intentional Living, Christian Mindfulness, Wellness Journey, Self Care For Christians, Christian Mental Health, Faith And Mental Health, Emotional Wellbeing, Christian Women, Faithful Boundaries, Holistic Faith, Run Your Race, Godly Self Care

Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
175. Hot Tub Time: 🧖🏽♀️Permission Granted For Self Care & Soul Healing
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
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Welcome to this spontaneous episode, where I'm literally recording from my hot tub! I'm sharing all about my approach to 2025 and why I'm focusing on a more holistic, gentle approach to well-being this year.
Much love,
Dani
Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.
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Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you.
Keywords: holistic wellness, Christian self-care, body mind spirit connection, soul care, gentle approach to health, permission to rest, integrated wellness, Christian wellness, faith-based self-care, nervous system regulation, burnout prevention, Christian women, intentional living, recovering perfectionist, mind body soul, spiritual practices

Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
174. ⏰ Welcome to Lent: Grace & Tools for Surrender
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
Welcome to Lent!
I just wanted to share some quick tools and share how I'm approaching this Lenten season.
Sending you much love,
Dani
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Monday Feb 24, 2025
173. Permission to Rest (Yes, Really!) - A Story About Burnout & Grace
Monday Feb 24, 2025
Monday Feb 24, 2025
What if rest didn't make you feel guilty or lazy? That's the question I've been wrestling with during this intense season of life. I'm discovering that those "time out" periods aren't just nice—they're necessary!
I've been walking through some really challenging times lately, but instead of just trying to power through, I'm learning how to not only survive but actually find little moments of joy along the way.
When we give ourselves permission to rest, something beautiful happens. That guilt we've attached to slowing down? It's not serving us. What if taking that break is exactly what your mind, body and spirit need to show up fully in all the other areas of your life?
Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is simply pause. I hope this encourages you wherever you are today!
Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.
Much love,
Dani
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Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
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Hey friend,
Today, I'm talking about anger. I know anger can be an issue for a lot of us. And sometimes, in our culture, it's difficult to talk about.
Key Points:
- The two main sources of anger: injustice and grief
- How childhood conditioning shapes our relationship with emotions
- Understanding the connection between anger, fear, and control
- The importance of self-awareness in managing anger
- Practical breathing techniques for diffusing anger in the moment
- Why anger can be a valuable teacher in our lives
- Finding balance between spiritual practice and emotional healing
I hope this episode helps you.
Also, if you've been feeling the need for extra support and direction, AND you resonate with what I talk about on the Podcast--Book a FREE-(on me) discovery call for us to connect and see if working together one-on-one for a season could help you.
Go to www.danisumner.com/discoverycall, or here's the link to my calendar to sign up. I look forward to connecting!
So much love,
Dani
🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/
✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here.
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