A HOLY MESS | From Shame, Regret, Exhausted, Burnout To Boundaries, Emotional Healing, Christian Mindset, Recovery, Personal Growth

152. The Serenity Prayer: Struggle with surrender? Christian recovery techniques and this simple prayer can help. One day at a time.

If you memorize one prayer all year, let it be this one!

This simple yet profound prayer has saved me from myself and my struggles more than I can count.

I hope this short episode blesses you!

You are not alone, and I'm cheering for you.

The Serenity Prayer:
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, 
The courage to change the things I can, 
And the wisdom to know the difference. Amen."

Much love,
Dani

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151. Unlocking Relationship Healing: Healing from the Inside Out

Today, we're diving deep into something that's been heavy on my heart—those complicated, often painful relationships in our lives.

You know, the ones I'm talking about—the ones that ache deep within you and keep you up at night. Our nearest and dearest struggles either with our spouses, children, parents, siblings, churches or even colleagues- can leave us feeling lost, overwhelmed, and desperate for answers or even an escape hatch at times. 

I've been there, friends. Oh, have I been there. And I know how crippling it can feel.

But here's the beautiful truth I've discovered on this journey: the relationship we need to heal most is often with ourselves.

I know it might sound counterintuitive and maybe even a little selfish, but stick with me here because this is where the magic happens.

In this episode, we're exploring what I like to call the "magic sauce" of relational healing:

- Why healing your relationship with yourself is the key to unlocking clarity and wisdom with how to deal with all other relationships
- How our relationship with ourselves profoundly impacts every area of our lives
- A special 7-day mirror exercise that might feel uncomfortable at first, but could change everything
- The spiritual perspective on self-love and soul care and its critical importance in our walk with God

Takeaway quote: "As we heal our relationship with ourselves, I'm telling you, other relationships around us are healed. And as we find boundaries, we find clarity."

Verse mentioned: Jeremiah 1:5 "I knew you before I formed you in your mother's womb. Before you were born, I set you apart."

Song mentioned: "God Only Knows" by King & Country

If you're ready to go deeper in this healing journey, learn more about the Feel Better Journey coaching program at www.danisumner.com/thefeelbetterjourney

With love and gratitude,
Dani

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150. Wired To Be Sought After: The Primal Dance of Human Existence

Hi friend!

I'm sharing a short story, verse, quote, and song in today's short episode.

I hope it blesses you!

Remember, no matter how lonely you feel, you're not alone. 

Quote: "We are all born into this world looking for someone looking for us." --Psychiatrist Curt Thompson, read that again. 👆🏽

Song: I am not alone by Kari Job iTunes // YouTube // Spotify

Verse: Romans 8:38-39 "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord" 

Glad you're here,

Dani

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Keywords:

Divine pursuit, God's love, Spiritual healing, Grace, Christian Inner healing, Jesus' compassion, Scripture (Romans 8:38-39), Prayer, Faith, God's presence ,Spiritual journey, Redemption, God's faithfulness, Christian community, Spiritual growth, God's unconditional love, Overcoming doubt, Christian encouragement, Spiritual connection, God's mercy

149. The Truth About Happiness: It Comes with a Side of Sadness

Hey friends,

Get ready to dive into the messy, beautiful reality of being human with Therapist Jim Beebe. Jim's such a gift to our community! 

We're talking about the loneliness and incompleteness so many of us feel, and guess what? It's not just you, and it doesn't mean you're failing at life or doing anything wrong!

I know in some Christian circles, feeling sad or anxious can make you feel like you're not praying hard enough or that God's giving you the cold shoulder. And that can add another layer of shame to our struggles. Ugh.

But those feelings are part of the human package.

Jim also reminds us that even the best marriages and relationships can't erase human loneliness, but embracing it as part of our journey leads to depth, wisdom, and wholeness. Sadness can even be the doorway to true joy—crazy, right? But oh, so true.

If you've ever felt like something's missing or beaten yourself up for not being happy enough, this episode is a big ol' hug and fresh perspective. True happiness is about dancing with all of life's experiences with acceptance and grace.

Enjoy Jim's refreshing perspective and wisdom that comes from working as a Therapist for over 40 years. :)

Sending so much love to you, and I'm glad you're here!

Dani

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148. If You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going

Hi friend!

Life is full of ups and downs. And I'm feeling all the feelings and emotions that come along with the rollercoaster. :) 

In today's episode, I'm sharing a bit of what I've been wrestling through lately and some encouragement--if you're wrestling through a part of your life or this season of life--I hope you're encouraged!

References:

Quote- "If you're going through hell, keep going."-Winston Churchill

Verse- Romans 5:3-5

Song- "There was Jesus" by Zach Williams and Dolly Parton iTunes // YouTube // Spotify

xo🧡,

Dani

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147. This, too, shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass! Finding Faith in Hard Seasons.

In today's episode, I share a personal struggle we're going through that's teaching me a ton about life. In this short encouragement episode, I also share a quote, a verse, and a song. 

I hope it encourages you!

Quote: "Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be."-- Thomas a Kempis

Song: Shine Your Way iTunes // YouTube // Spotify

Verse: Philippians 1:6, "He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ."

"This too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass!"-Dani :)

Enjoy!

Dani

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146. Two Tools To Heal Your Self-image- Build Confidence, Recognize And Embrace Your Unique Strengths And Qualities, And Learn The Art Of Receiving Compliments

“Our greatest strengths can also be our deepest vulnerabilities.”-Dani

In today’s episode, I’m sharing two tools to help build self-confidence. 

One of the tools I share about is a practical exercise that you can incorporate into your daily routine. By practicing this tool, you will boost your self-confidence and gain valuable insights about yourself. It feels awkward at first, but it's so worth the effort to push through the awkwardness to reap the benefits. 

Enjoy today’s episode!
Love you,

Dani

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145. How To Heal Regret and Shame Through Radical Acceptance. Conquering Comparison And Navigating Judgment to Rewrite Your Life Story Through Redemption & Building Resiliency w/ Counselor Jim Beebe.

Are you struggling with regret, shame, or feeling like you've missed out on the life you were supposed to have? Well then, you're in for a treat today! 
My counselor, Jim Beebe, is with us, AND holy moly, do we dive deep today!

Jim's amazing, and you're going to love him. 

We're diving deep into the human experience of the "shoulda, coulda, woulda," and Jim offers profound insights on finding healing and peace. And most importantly, he shares practical steps that can help offload some regret and shame. 

I'm telling you, what he shares works. 

Jim's wisdom could be the key you've been searching for, potentially saving you from years of struggle and even thousands in therapy. You're welcome. ;) 

His insights are so helpful and practical.  

Remember, wherever you are in the process, you're not alone, and there's HOPE.

If you're ready to stop beating yourself up, paying the "pain tax," and start moving towards freedom - this episode is for you. 

Grateful you're here.

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Enjoy today's episode,
Dani

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144. Healing our self-image and accepting Jesus' love for us can help us get through life's challenges with grace and faith. Quick encouragement.

Hi friend,

I'm reminded how much the harm the hard things we've walked through in this life affect us. They leave their mark on us at times, so to speak... So, if you're walking "through it," I'm sorry for the pain... but keep walking... you will get through this.

You've survived all of your worst days so far. ;)

Glad you're here, and I hope today's episode encourages you.

If you need prayer, email me at hello@danisumner.com

Also, in today's episode, I mentioned a survey--if you'd like to participate, that would be amazing. I love hearing from those who listen to the show. Here's the link.

Here's the song, quote, and verse I mention:

Quote:

"you will never outperform your own self-image."

Verse:

Isaiah 40:26 "Lift up your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one and calls forth each of them by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing."

Song:

"Another in the fire" Hillsong United  iTunes // Youtube // Spotify

Glad you're here. 

Much love,

Dani

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143. Feeling Stressed Or Emotional? You're Not Alone – The Fruit of the Spirit is Here to Bless, Not Shame You

Hey friend!

Okay, let's get real for a second. Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of stress management and how to give shame the boot when we're struggling.

Because let's face it, we're all beautifully complex humans, and guess what? That's exactly how God designed us!

Now, I know there's this pesky little misconception that tends to float around in Christian circles (and trust me, I've fallen for it too)--the idea that if we're grappling with big feelings, intense emotions, or just facing some tough challenges, it must mean we're doing something wrong. ;/

But here's the thing: that's just not true. Nope, not even close!

In today's episode, we'll explore the wild and wonderful truth that our emotions are not some kind of curse.

In fact, learning to feel and process them is all part of the "holy and hard work" of personal growth. It's like a spiritual workout and so worth it in the long run.

And you know what else? We'll talk about how our pain and struggles can actually become our purpose.

Those hardships we go through can equip us with the wisdom and compassion to minister to others who are going through similar things. It's like turning lemons into the most delicious, soul-quenching lemonade. ;)

I hope this episode wraps you up in a big ol' hug and reminds you that you are so not alone in your struggles. We're all in this beautiful, messy, amazing journey together.

I'm so grateful you're here, and I can't wait to share this time with you!

Love and grace,
Dani

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Key Takeaways:

1. Life's hardships, circumstances, relationships, and our unique physiology can all contribute to feelings of anxiety, depression, sadness, or grief, and it's crucial to acknowledge and process these emotions without judgment.

2. We are not spiritual robots, and resenting ourselves for struggling emotionally can be harmful. Instead, we should strive to be self-aware, observing our feelings and thoughts to understand their deeper roots.

3. Our emotions are not a curse, and learning to feel and process them is part of the "holy and hard work" of personal growth.

4. As triune beings (body, mind, and spirit), trauma and pain can leave lasting imprints on our entire being, making it essential to find healthy ways to release pain and not allow our bodies to become "coffins for pain."

5. Our pain and struggles can become our purpose, allowing us to minister to others through the wisdom gained from hardships.

6. Experiencing difficulties doesn't make someone less of a Christian or indicate that they are doing something wrong.

7. Engaging in the work of processing emotions and experiences within a supportive community can be transformative.

Quotes:

"Your pain can also become one of your biggest purposes on this planet."

"We are not spiritual robots, but we are spiritual beings, and we have to tend to those places within us."

"Doing this life together ... is literally his kingdom come, thy will be done on earth now as it is in heaven."

 

Resources:

- "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk (book mentioned in the episode)

- The Feel Better Journey (a program created to help you process emotions and experiences in a healthy, Jesus-centered way, and it's a fun time, together!)

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