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137. Does Praying Make Your Anxiety Worse At Times? 3 Tips & Prayers

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Hi friend! 

If you've ever felt more anxious after praying or wrestled with thoughts like, "Why isn't prayer helping?!" and "Am I doing it wrong?" and so many others, today's episode is for you.

I'm sharing a few thoughts about it all, as well as some very simple yet profound prayers that have changed the game for me when I'm struggling, especially with anxiety. I hope they help you, too. 

The prayers mentioned today:

The Surrender Prayer:

Jesus, I surrender myself to you. Take care of everything. Amen. 

The Lord's Prayer:

Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory forever and ever. Amen.

The Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen. 

Also, The Feel Better Journey Program is opening soon! If you want extra support this season and a program (and me!) that will walk you through, equip you, and help you find relief from your internal struggles--jump on the waitlist, and we will let you know when doors open. 

Check it out at https://www.danisumner.com/thefeelbetterjourney  

So grateful you're here! 

We're trying out video podcasting too, and if you'd prefer to watch this episode: YouTube Episode 137

Much love,

Dani

 

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136. Loneliness Doesn't Mean Something Is Wrong with You, It Means You're Human: Vulnerability & Grace

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Hi!

Want to watch this on YouTube? Click here! We're playing around with doing more video podcast episodes. AND YES, THIS audio feed will always be here for you. :)

Today, we have Therapist Jim Beebe with us for a short discussion on loneliness. Jim's the real deal and such a gift to this world—he knows his stuff and is such a blessing in my life and our community. He's been an LMFT and has been working with people for over 40 years.

Loneliness can feel so isolating, but most of us feel the sting of it.

It can affect us in many ways--emotionally, mentally, and even physically and spiritually. 

I hope this short episode encourages you. 

Also, The Feel Better Journey Program is opening soon! If you want extra support this season and a program (and me!) that will walk you through, equip you and help you find relief from your internal struggles--jump on the waitlist, and we will let you know when doors open. 
Check it out at https://www.danisumner.com/thefeelbetterjourney  

So grateful you're here! 
Much love,
Dani

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Extra notes about Episode 136.

Overview and Summary: Loneliness. - Acknowledgment of life's difficulties and struggles - Emphasis on hope, joy, peace, love, fun, purpose, and divine purpose - Encouragement to embrace personal struggles and partner with God to overcome them Primary Topic: Discussion on Loneliness and Community - Acknowledgment of the prevalence of loneliness and its impact on mental and physical health - Recognition of societal factors contributing to increased loneliness - Stress on the importance and challenges of human connection - Exploration of the internal and external factors contributing to loneliness - Emphasis on the value of being known and accepted in communities - Encouragement to embrace loneliness as part of the human condition - Discussion of the potential trauma responses and shame associated with loneliness - Recognition of the significance of sharing and hearing others' stories Another Primary Topic: Relationship Dynamics and Expectations - Acknowledgment of the unrealistic expectations and pressures in relationships - Messaging in romantic movies and media about soulmates and perfect partners - Emphasis on recognizing that loneliness is part of the human experience, even within relationships - Recognition of the need for multiple, different relationships for various needs and purposes Primary Topic: Self-Acceptance and Being a Friend to Oneself - Acknowledgment of the importance of self-acceptance and self-love - Encouragement to embrace all parts of oneself, particularly the lonely or struggling parts - Stress on the significance of being a friend to oneself and being comfortable in one's own skin - Acknowledgment of personal struggles and the need for emotional support and community Another Primary Topic: Reflection and Encouragement - Encouragement to share and discuss personal experiences and struggles in safe spaces - Announcement and promotion of The Feel Better Journey group coaching program - Promotion of shared experiences and feelings as a way of connecting and feeling part of the human community podcast, grief, loss, shame, anxiety, hope, joy, peace, love, purpose, recovering alcoholic, community, loneliness, relationships, connection, health risk, psychotherapy, trauma response, self-acceptance, human condition, authenticity, vulnerability, shame, fear of missing out, introvert, extrovert, friendship, bonding, loneliness, self-compassion, sharing, feel better journey

135. In A Tough Season? 1 Daily Strategy That Will Help You Move Forward With Resilience When You’re Dealing With Difficult Emotions Or Overwhelming Thoughts That Keep You From Being Productive...

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Hi friend!

I'm trying something new: video recording A Holy Mess Podcast! Check it out here on YouTube if you'd like that instead of listening. 

Today, we are discussing one very helpful strategy for when you feel unproductive or distracted by life's drama in your day-to-day life. I hope it helps!

The Feel Better Journey Program is opening soon! If you want extra support this season and a program (and me!) that will walk you through and equip you to thrive no matter your circumstances, jump on the waitlist, and we will let you know when doors open. Check it out here.

Much love,

Dani

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134. How To Know When To Put Up Boundaries And When To Help In Difficult Friendships. Quote by Frederick Buechner, Brennan Manning & Fruit Of The Spirit Wisdom

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Hi friend!

If you've ever struggled with knowing when to help someone who is struggling and when to set a boundary, I hope today's episode helps! 

Today, I'm sharing a strategy that has helped me discern that whole thing!

And I love and live by this quote: "The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet." 
— Frederick Buechner

This strategy is not a perfect science by any means, but it has served me pretty well over the last decade, and I hope it helps you, too!

Glad you're here!

Much love,

Dani

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133. A Close Call. I Had A Drink, But I'm Still Sober. Story Time & Some Encouragement.

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Hi friend,

Well, life got real for me a couple of weeks ago when I unexpectedly drank alcohol on accident after over 13 years of sobriety.

I am still sober, by the Grace of God. 

I'm sharing the story in today's episode.

There is so much more I could have shared, but I kept it short.

I've learned so much through this experience, and I'm sure I will share more about it all in the future. 

For today, please know how grateful I am for this community and how thankful I am that you're here with us.

I'm also so grateful for the gift of life, for actually living and thriving, not just surviving.

Having this brush up with reality reminded me that I never want to take my sobriety or this beautiful life for granted.

But by the Grace of God...

*If you are actively struggling with an addiction, please find a local recovery group in your town. We all need support in times of struggle, and you are not alone. 

God bless and much love,
Dani 

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132. Faith Struggles Or Feeling Distant From God? How Childhood Experiences And Past Wounds Shape And Impact Our View of God's Love

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Hi friend!

In today's episode, I'm sharing insights from a conversation I had with some friends about how the harmful experiences from our past can impact our relationship with God. 

I hope you find this episode encouraging and helpful no matter where you are on your faith journey. 

I'm glad you're here! 

Join my email list for all the updates and email fun! 
Much love,
Dani

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✅ Dani's Coaching program--"The Feel Better Journey."

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131. ✅ 3 Tips For Dealing With Intense Emotions And Moments When You're Triggered

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Hello friend,

"The goal of life is not to NOT be triggered."—I know that sentence is not the best grammar, but that's the theme and message of today's episode! 

I hope the episode encourages and blesses you.

Also, join my email list here. I'd love to connect with you there, too! 

Three quick takeaways from today's episode:

✅ Get into action.

✅ Take control of our breath.

✅ Can I do anything right now to help this situation?

Grateful you're here! 

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Much love,

Dani

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130. Conversation w/ Therapist Jim Beebe. Learning Radical Acceptance. 🚨Also, Last Call For This Round Of The Feel Better Journey!

Hi friend,

I'm so grateful for our time with Jim today. If you're new around here, welcome! 

Jim is a regular on the show, and he's been a Therapist for over 40 years. I'm so grateful for the insight and wisdom he shares with us. 

We're continuing the conversation about learning to be okay when everything's not okay. 

And last call for this round of The Feel Better Journey-my group coaching and mentoring program!—if you're feeling the tug, jump in! We laugh a lot and heal Spiritually together. The program is virtual & the live group calls on Zoom start Monday, February 5th at 2 pm (PST)-recordings are available if you need to miss the live calls. 

Sign up today and jump right in! 

It's a soul-nourishing, holy, and funnn time together. Personal development with the Lord isn't supposed to be dry and dull. 

Life's too short and heavy not to have fun as we heal and grow! 

 In 8 weeks, you will have the tools to:

• experience more peace, 
• learn to extend grace to yourself, and 
• help you not be so controlled by difficult circumstances or relationships. 

Just imagine how much more you'd enjoy life if you could manage your emotions and thoughts instead of them controlling and bullying you around. 

Sign up now, and I will see you inside the program!

I'm glad you're here.

Much love,

Dani

🌟To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com

✅ Dani's Coaching program--"The Feel Better Journey."

🙏🏽Want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> hello@danisumner.com  

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129. ⏰1 Quick Tip For Bringing Serenity In A Hard Moment: Box Or Square Breathing. Christian Meditation, Breathwork W/ Jesus

Hi friend,

I used to think meditation was so "woo-hoo" or "new agey" until I started doing it and realized what a holy and fantastic practice it could be! 

It doesn't have to be intimidating or be 20 minutes a day. You can do a short one in 30 seconds. 

The more I practice, the more it helps. It's funny how things work that way. 

Also, doors are open to The Feel Better Journey--my group coaching and mentoring program! Or aka, "Dani unplugged!"-- We laugh a lot and heal Spiritually together.

I love our community, and I'd love to journey with you! The program is virtual & the live group calls on Zoom start Monday, February 5th at 2 pm(PST)--recording available if necessary.

If you can listen to the Podcast, you can do the tech that is involved in our program :) It's super easy peasy.

It's not hard work but a soul-nourishing, holy, and funnn time together.

Life's too short and heavy not to have fun as we heal and grow! 

 In 8 weeks, you will have the tools to:

• experience more peace, 

•learn to extend grace to yourself, and 

•help you not be so controlled by difficult circumstances or complicated relationships. 

Just imagine the peace you'd experience if you could manage your emotions and thoughts instead of them controlling and bullying you. 

Sign up now, and I will see you inside the program!

Glad you're here,

Dani

 

🌟To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com

✅ Dani's Coaching program--"The Feel Better Journey."

🙏🏽Want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> hello@danisumner.com

 

128. 3 Simple Tools & Strategies To Help w/ Your Evening Routine. Learning To Habit Stack, Especially If You Struggle w/ ADHD, Seasonal Depression, Or Are Going Through A Tough Season

Hi there!

I've struggled with simple routines for years...until recently!

And I have to say, routines and systems in place can be a gift and lifesaver, especially if you're in a struggling season (or a struggling lifetime, haha. More on that another day. Rome wasn't built in day! ;)  

Simple tools, like an evening routine, are a simple way to thrive and make life a wee-bit more enjoyable and manageable.

If you don't have an evening routine, I'd encourage you to create a simple one, and I'd love to help. 

The three non-negotiable things I do every evening, and I highly recommend them are:

1- Plan my tomorrow—As my day ends today, set my day up for tomorrow—write my top 3 priorities for tomorrow's tasks. 

2- Do one special or soul-nourishing thing for myself in the evening.

3- Say one thing I did well today. 

Super simple, right? 

Also, doors are open to The Feel Better Journey-my group coaching and mentoring program! Or aka, "Dani unplugged!"-- We laugh a lot and heal Spiritually together. I love our community, and I'd love to journey with you! The program is virtual & the live group calls on Zoom start Monday, February 5th at 2pm(PST)--everything is recorded if you need to miss the live calls. If you can listen to the Podcast, you can do the tech that is involved in our program :) Super easy peasy. It's not hard work but a soul-nourishing, holy, and funnn time together. This stuff isn't supposed to be heavy, dry, and boring!

Life's too short and heavy not to have fun as we heal and grow! 

 In 8 weeks, you will have the tools to:

•  experience more peace, 
• learn to extend grace to yourself, and 
• help you not be so controlled by difficult circumstances or difficult relationships in your life. 

Just imagine the peace you'd experience if you could manage your emotions and thoughts instead of them controlling and bullying you. 

Sign up now, and I will see you inside the program!

I'm glad you're here.

Much love, 

Dani

🌟To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com

✅ Dani's Coaching program--"The Feel Better Journey."

🙏🏽Want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> hello@danisumner.com  

🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram