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Do you ever feel stuck, emotionally drained, or like you’re constantly striving but never “enough”? You’re in the right place!
Welcome to A HOLY MESS Podcast (ranked in the top 1% globally🎉), a podcast designed for you if you’re ready to break free and heal from self-doubt, burnout, and overgiving—so you can step into confidence, peace, God’s grace and purpose with clarity.
Each week, I share biblical wisdom, mindset shifts, and real conversations to help you:
✨ Overcome self-doubt and fear with faith-based confidence.
✨ Let go of striving and perfectionism and embrace God’s grace.
✨ Set healthy boundaries and stop people-pleasing without guilt.
✨ Heal from burnout, shame, regret, and emotional exhaustion.
✨ Renew your mind with God’s truth and step into your purpose.
There’s no magic wand to find more freedom, but there are practical tools that can help.
Even as Christians who sometimes feel unworthy and shame about our past, anxious about our future, or feel like we are not enough. There is so much more for us! There’s hope, joy, peace, fun, purpose, and a reason that YOU are on this planet.
If you’re ready to rediscover your worth, reconnect with God, and finally feel at peace, you’re in the right place.
We can have fun and laugh while trudging through our messes; this stuff doesn’t need to be dry and boring.
I can’t wait to journey with you.
Your new friend,
Dani
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Episodes
Jan 24, 2026
Jan 24, 2026
20 min
Hey friend!
Today we're talking about nervous system regulation. If that sounds "woo" to you, I get it. But this is biblical, and science is catching up.
What We're Covering:
When I got sober, I was SO dysregulated. I'd go straight into fight or flight over everything. I had to learn to catch myself and regulate instead of constantly reacting from trauma.
The Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification: 6 months of YOUR transformation first. Yes, you'll learn to coach others, but it starts with you. We can't pour from an empty well.
Key Truths:
- You're not too much AND you're enough (Ephesians 2:10 - you're God's masterpiece)
- Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's the most selfless thing you can do
- The world will dysregulate you over and over. You have to regulate yourself internally
- You deserve a seat at the table, not standing in the corner in the dark
This Certification Is For:
- People who want to build a coaching business
- Bible study leaders who want real transformation (not just head knowledge)
- Anyone tired of having all the answers
- Those called to help others but don't know where to start
Whatever you've done or whatever's been done to you—God's not done with you. Shame, limiting beliefs, and fear do not get the final say.
📅 Ready for see your next steps? Book your FREE complimentary call here
Peace,
Dani
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Jan 21, 2026
Jan 21, 2026
19 min
Ready to explore your purpose more?! Schedule your complimentary call here.
Just got back from Hawaii (boat sickness and all), and here's the thing: Nobody remembers three problems ago. I'm sharing about what it's like when life feels heavy even while good things are happening.
Life keeps moving, and we have to learn to move with it. Holding both the hard and the good at the same time.
In This Episode:
- Why you might struggle to dream again after disappointment
- How healing happens even when circumstances aren't perfect
- The "whack-a-mole" reality of problems (and why that's actually hopeful)
- Recognizing what's blocking your ability to feel joy
- Being honest about your life without toxic positivity
What You'll Walk Away With:
The truth is, life gets WAY better as you heal, even if your circumstances stay messy.
If dreaming feels impossible, there's healing work to do
Resilience matters more than having it all together.
Ready to step more into your purpose?
Schedule a call with me and let’s connect about what could possibly be next for you.
Book your complimentary call here.
You're not alone in what you're walking through. Keep showing up.
Love,
Dani
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Jan 1, 2026
Jan 1, 2026
50 min
Hello friends! I'm thrilled to bring you this spontaneous episode - we planned it this morning and hit record this afternoon because when inspiration strikes, you go with it!
I'm joined by the wonderful Nici to discuss my upcoming life coach certification program and what led her to join the inaugural group. If you've been considering life coaching, questioning whether certification is necessary, or want to understand what becoming a transformational coach actually involves - you're in the right place.
Episode Highlights
Why Now? The Vision Behind This Program
- My motivation for creating this certification (hint: it's the program I needed when I started)
- Three pathways for life coaches: full-time practice, side income, or ministry enhancement
- Building a legacy by equipping coaches who'll reach people I never could
What Sets This Program Apart
- Personal one-on-one coaching sessions with me across 6 months
- Bi-monthly small group calls (90-120 minutes each)
- Buddy coaching with recorded sessions that I review and provide feedback on
- Ready-to-use laminated frameworks and worksheets for client sessions
- A comprehensive experience combining certification, mentorship, transformation, and business development
Nici opens up about her path from emotional exhaustion to self-care through the Feel Better Journey, including:
- Why individual attention and mentorship mattered in her choice
- Working through concerns about investment and timing
- The concept of serving from fullness rather than depletion
- How this represents legacy-building for her as well
Program Overview
Timeline: 6 months
Includes:
- 6 individual coaching sessions with me
- Twice-monthly group sessions (90-120 minutes)
- Buddy coaching with personalized feedback
- Laminated coaching frameworks and materials
- Proven client programs available (optional to use)
- An intimate, carefully selected cohort community
Ideal For:
- Those called to facilitate transformation in others
- People wanting to channel their experiences into meaningful work
- Anyone seeking professional skills alongside profound personal development
- Faith-oriented coaches desiring a comprehensive approach (mind, emotions, spirit, body)
Is This Your Next Step?
Consider these questions:
- Do people naturally seek your guidance and you want better tools to serve them?
- Are you sensing a call to deeper involvement in people's lives?
- Do you want to create a business, generate income, or enhance your service?
- Are you prepared to do transformative personal work while learning to facilitate it for others?
If these resonate, let's connect!
Schedule Your Exploratory Call!
I'm personally selecting this founding cohort since they'll help shape the program's future. I'm looking for committed individuals who'll create great group synergy.
Let's have a no-pressure conversation about your situation, aspirations, and whether this certification aligns with your goals.
We'll discuss:
- Your background and what draws you to coaching
- Which pathway resonates with you
- Any concerns or questions on your mind
- Your readiness for this 6-month commitment
- Program investment and flexible payment plans
Peace,
Dani
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Dec 20, 2025
Dec 20, 2025
26 min
Hi! If you've been feeling that pull toward something more, like maybe God's been whispering about using your story to help others… Oh friend, this one's for you.
I'm officially launching something I've been dreaming about for YEARS: a Life Coach Certification and Training Program—and I want to tell you all about it.
In today's episode, I'm sharing:
Why I'm finally doing this (and how this dream went from "too big for me" to "okay God, I trust You")
What makes a phenomenal life coach (spoiler: it's all about asking really good questions that help people find their own answers)
How life coaching changed MY life first before I ever helped anyone else—these tools transformed my own healing journey
Why your story matters and how it's meant for His glory, not your shame
The "why not you?" question that shifted everything for me (your past doesn't define or limit your purpose)
What makes this certification program different and what we'll cover over 6 months together
Details about the training—one-on-one coaching with me, group sessions, practice coaching with real feedback, my signature tools and frameworks, plus an optional in-person retreat celebration
Why I'm only taking 12 people in this first cohort (I want to pour into your well)
Who this might be for—if you feel made for more, called to help people heal, or curious about stepping into your purpose
This is a gentle, heartfelt episode about:
Not despising small beginnings (God works with your mustard seed of faith)
Stepping into what scares you because He equips you
Using the very things that broke you to help others break free
Trusting that your journey—all of it—has prepared you for this
👉 Book Your FREE Discovery Call
If you're feeling called to help others heal, transform, and step into their purpose—and you're ready to explore if life coach training is your next step—let's connect.
Let's explore together if this is your next step. You don't need it all figured out—just bring your open heart and your curiosity.
Holiday Reminder: The holidays can be beautiful AND difficult. Make time for yourself and your soul. Remember what this season is about: Jesus being birthed into our lives and all He wants to birth through YOU.
Prayer Request: Pray that God brings the right people to this training and that I steward this opportunity well!
Peace,
Dani
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Dec 3, 2025
Dec 3, 2025
25 min
👉 Book a Discovery Call
If you’re ready for your next season to be filled with purpose and to help you get your spark for life back, let’s connect.
You can schedule a complimentary call with me here.
Hi!
If you’ve been feeling pulled in a thousand directions, overwhelmed by expectations, or stuck in the old habit of people-pleasing… oh friend, this one’s for you.
This week, I had to make a really big decision:
Do I fly to a business retreat in sunny Florida that I’ve been looking forward to for six months…
or do I stay home for my son’s state semifinal football game?
Both were good. Both mattered. And honestly? It sent my nervous system into a spiral.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing:
- What it’s like to make decisions when you’re overwhelmed
- How I calmed my nervous system enough to hear God clearly
- Why we cannot make wise choices from anxiety, guilt, or pressure
- How people-pleasing used to run my life (and almost broke me)
- A simple, biblical way to connect with your intuition and the Holy Spirit
- The exact phrase that finally brought me clarity and peace
- Why choosing alignment over approval is spiritual maturity
- And how to stop doing “all the things” so you can stay human, whole, and grounded
This is a gentle, practical episode about letting go, honoring your limits, and trusting that God guides you when you get quiet enough to listen.
👉 Book a Discovery Call
If you’re entering 2026 knowing something has to change, and you’re craving peace, clarity, and emotional alignment, let’s connect.
You can schedule a complimentary call with me here.
Peace,
Dani
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Key topics:
Christian women and overwhelm, decision-making with God, Holy Spirit guidance, faith-based nervous system regulation, how to stop people-pleasing, Christian life coaching, emotional burnout, intuition and faith, Christian boundaries, doing less with clarity, spiritual alignment, Christian women’s mental health, overwhelm in motherhood, faith and anxiety, finding peace in busy seasons.
Nov 27, 2025
Nov 27, 2025
9 min
Happy Thanksgiving!
Glad you're here,
Dani
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Nov 25, 2025
Nov 25, 2025
17 min
What if healing isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… but learning how to find peace while it’s still raining?
While driving down the California coast in a torrential downpour, with full sunshine pouring through the windshield, God gave me a powerful epiphany that changed the way I see healing, peace, and inner resilience.
For years I believed healing meant fixing circumstances, praying away the struggle, or finally getting to an “easier” season. But sometimes the rain doesn’t stop. What can change is our capacity, our perspective, and our ability to hold both suffering and joy at the same time.
This episode is especially for you if you’re tired, overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or waiting for life to calm down before you let yourself breathe again.
Scripture:
- Hosea 2:15 — “I will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.”
- Joel 2:25 — “I will renew the years the locusts have eaten.”
Song:
Quote:
“You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change how you frame it. We’re offered a range of different lenses: acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude.”
— Noelle Oxenhandler
If this episode resonated and you’re ready to find peace in the storm, not just after it, I’d love to support you.
📅 Book a Free Discovery Call
Let’s talk about where you’re at and how we can work together to help you find more serenity, purpose, and emotional freedom.
👉 Click here to schedule your discovery call
Glad you’re here,
Dani :)
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Nov 19, 2025
Nov 19, 2025
34 min
Ever feel like you've tried EVERYTHING—therapy, retreats, prayer meetings, all the books—but you're still struggling? This episode reveals what might be the missing piece: integrating your body into the healing process.
👉If you’re tired of feeling lost, unheard, or disconnected from your purpose, AND you’re feeling a pull toward “something more” but can’t seem to find your way there, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call and we’ll gently explore what’s getting in the way of the life you know you’re meant to live.
Still feeling stuck after prayer, therapy, and all the self-help? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still feel this way after everything I’ve done?” I hope this episode helps.
Today I’m joined by one of my favorite humans on the planet (and my longtime therapist), Jim Beebe.
Jim’s a wealth of wisdom, life experience and compassion. AND he’s the real deal! I’m so grateful when he shares his time with us on the show! Today we’re talking about my new Coaching program The Third Act, and about why so many of us still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or quietly disconnected on the inside… even though we’ve spent years trying to heal.
We break down the real reasons you might feel stuck, including:
- why talk therapy, prayer, and spiritual work can eventually hit a ceiling
- how trauma and stress live in the body and nervous system
- the triune being: body, mind, and spirit working together
The 3 Acts of your life story, and why so many of us end up circling in Act Two far longer than we need to.
We also dive into what The Third Act really means, and how to step into a more grounded, purposeful, peaceful chapter of your life… one that actually feels like you.
If you’re spiritually-minded, love Jesus, and feel exhausted, invisible, or quietly lost inside (even though your life looks “fine” or even great on the outside), this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a deep sense of hope.
So grateful you’re here,
Dani
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Nov 12, 2025
Nov 12, 2025
23 min
Hey friend! Today we’re talking about growing our relationship with our Creator, AND why the phrase "quiet time" makes me cringe and how I learned to connect with God in ways that actually work for who HE made ME to be.
If you've ever felt like you're not doing devotions "right" or that your relationship with God doesn't look like everyone else's, this episode is for YOU.
It's time to let go of the shoulds and discover what actually feeds your soul.
What You'll Learn:
✨ Why traditional "quiet time" doesn't work for everyone (and that's okay!)
💪 What a "spiritual workout" looks like and how to create your own
🏃♀️ How movement, dancing, and even naps can be part of intimacy with God
📖 Permission to skip scriptures that bring shame instead of empowerment
🧠 The mind-body-spirit connection you can't ignore
Key Quotes:
"You may have been your mom's accident, but you are not God's accident. You are here for such a time as this."
"I don't believe my thoughts until I move my body."
"Scripture was meant to empower you. If there are scriptures tearing your soul apart, don't read them right now."
"I'm so exhausted from trying to figure everything out on my own."
My Spiritual Workout Includes:
- Gentle morning movement (12-minute circuit)
- Brain dumping & intentional journaling
- Dancing to worship music
- Nature meditation walks (praying and listening prayer)
- Sauna time for body + soul
- Rest when needed (yes, naps!)
Ready to Go Deeper?
Book Your Free Discovery Call
If this episode resonated with you, let's talk! I work with women who are tired of religious "shoulds" and ready for authentic intimacy with God.
During our call, we'll:
- Explore where you're feeling stuck spiritually
- Identify what's blocking your intimacy with God
- Discover if coaching together is right for you
- Create a vision for your spiritual workout
- Create a vision for YOUR FUTURE. You deserve a clear vision for what your heart desires.
No pressure. No shoulds. Just honest conversation.
👉 Schedule Your Discovery Call Here
Remember: There's no formula for connecting with the Lord. You have PERMISSION to do it differently. You have permission to evolve.
God bless you! 💛
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Nov 12, 2025
Nov 12, 2025
15 min
What's up my people! Today marks my 15th sobriety birthday! 🎉
In this episode, I'm getting real about recovery, purpose, and why your hardest moments don't disqualify you from living a life full of joy and meaning. If you're struggling with feeling unworthy or like your past has disqualified you from your future, this one's for you.
Key Takeaways
✨ Your darkest hours can become your greatest purpose
✨ Nothing you've been through disqualifies you from helping others or having purpose
✨ You don't need to publicize your story to live out your purpose
✨ Healing takes time—be patient with yourself
✨ You're not a vending machine—set boundaries and prioritize yourself
✨ It's OKAY to be happy, joyful, and walk confidently in your purpose
Ready to Transform Your Life?
If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to work through past pain, find your purpose, and build genuine confidence—I'd love to support you!
Book Your Free Discovery Call
Let's talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how life coaching can help you get there.
Schedule your complimentary discovery call
You don't have to do this alone.
Grateful,
Dani
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